Marriage is something that should be treasured. It's a blessing to be with the one you choose to be with, and to have yourself stay faithful with that one person you love, is like an all-time dream come true. Divorce is for people who can't handle and manage their feelings. I don't mean to be a jerk, but people who divorce can't handle loving someone and the emotional roller coaster that strikes them whenever like wants to give them a challenge. I for one am devoted to the one I love. Someone "sane" I suppose would consider me to be a helpless romantic or even go as far as to say I'm clingy, but those "sane" people, don't know the first thing about love if they'd had it.
To be loving one another, shouldn't be rushed. Never should it be shrugged off and neither should it be a "side-life". If you love someone to the point of marriage, then it should be very clear that you are there for a reason, and reading all this crap about how marriage with someone you love wouldn't last just aggravates me. I literally couldn't stop getting pissed off because of how this marriage thing was studied. Putting a limit on marriage?... Spit in my face while you're at it. I see these "studies", and I know I'm using a lot of quotes, but this is just unbelievable, are just wrongly ladled and just utterly and downright stupid to take it. I, for one, have studied relationships, because I've been shot down about nine times before I found 'the one'. After those nine rejections, I realized that these girls didn't like me, even though I tried my best to try to show them how much I liked them, and how much I wanted a chance. But they didn't give me a chance, let alone a say in it. But by the time I found the one girl who I kept dreaming about, literally, and kept getting giddy after seeing her for a few seconds, made me realize something. That there is such a thing as "love at first sight". To put this in perspective, it's basically like seeing someone you just cannot let go, and someone you would commit suicide if you broke up or if the other person were to die as well. Having dreams of that person CONSTANTLY about holding hands is a big sign that this is true, and let alone having the emotional impact of holding hands be the equivalent to having intercourse is just amazing. That "butterfly" feeling is when you found that special someone, whether your man or not. ... And by "man", I mean that stereotypical "man" who holds in his feelings and wants to show his "tough guy" face all the time.
To end this blog entry, and I'm sorry I'm so caught up in the love scene... but having a family who always downgrades you and how little you actually get love from anybody, really makes you a sucker for love, especially for someone who you just want to lay down with and cuddle everyday. My intentions on marriage does not follow what the book says. I want to love like a true, and faithful couple would love. Where everyone has an equal say, and how we're each other's number one fan. I see marriage as a great experience that shouldn't be thrown away, thus those who have, deserve no pity from me. I don't mean to be a jerk, but those people who lost their true love over anything that could have been fixed, should chase after them again, and never look back.
I myself am a hopeless romantic. There is nothing wrong with wanting something genuinely good for you. That desire is what drives our species. It’s better to have loved than to not have loved at all. I also agree with the metaphor you used for a marriage, it is like a roller-coaster, a lot of ups and downs.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong in being a hopeless romantic. If everyone were more like that then maybe there would be fewer divorces. But without communication and respect with one another, it can end up badly. When it comes to marriages or any relationship, there is no guarantee, just you and that person trying.
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